Carrie O'Hara

The pouting and ponderings of a single 30 year old

Days 100-105 April 15, 2012

You would think that someone on Easter holidays would manage to find a moment to blog…but my week has been full of people and places: cramming two weeks worth of ‘catch-up’ into one week, more than took care of the time allowed to me.

The highlights:

100: that coffee became lunch in one of my favourite places, with a friend who makes me laugh and that my Tuesday night was about the friend who visited, the stories told and a drink in my local rather than my continued fascination with the TV characters I usually depend on for Tuesday night company.

101 & 102:
Team D are my therapy. They have the grace and generosity to include me in the daily details of their lives when I come to visit. My friend G apologised that my visit was mundane, trips to Tesco and prescription collection, play parks and feeding the ducks: but he forgets that his company, that of his wonderful wife and his changing with enchantment by the second daughters, make their mundane my privileged special. In the two days I was there, I got: an Irish history lesson, and one on the bombing of Dresden, endless beer, great food, a favourite movie, hooked on a book, the promise of a night in with Matthew McConaghy and too many moments of genuine love and friendship to do them justice to in a continuing list.

103: lunch and a afternoon with a favourite friend in her truly idyllic little corner of a world. There was endless and entertainment from her 4yr old daughter and snuggles from her bubba son; there was wine ( which I managed to knock across the wonderfully pretty dining table and all over my non-drinking friend) … And there was enough sunshine, flowers and calm in her garden to make summer seem a promised thing.

104: I needed a day at home. I’d decided post London et al that school had claimed more than enough of my free time this Easter (and all of my half term) so I cleaned and scrubbed, folded and ironed, tweeted and text.

And I wondered what I’m supposed to be doing with or at the National Theatre. Sometimes a book, a song, a word, a person keeps presenting itself to you; fate or the universe or whoever is on charge demands that you give whatever it is some attention; and rarely, very rarely it’s a place.

I got the same feeling walking into the National as I had when I first stepped on the quad at Queens and into the apartment I now call home. It’s a sense of belonging: a premonition of significance. I dismissed it as my regular desire/ feeling as a wannabe lovey but then I read James Corden’s autobiography, in less than two days.

(an aside: I’m supposed to be reading Religion for Atheists : a book I suggested for book club, in the hope of pleasing my soul sister Belle, igniting discussion and quite possibly continuing on my quest to prove to the others that despite all appearances, I do have a brain. And because part of my whole: join a book club thing was to read things I wouldn’t normally give head or shelf space to…
But I’m hating it, no that’s unfair, I’m just not getting it- at all. It’s become homework. Something I have to do. I am not doing it. And, I stubbornly refused (until M insisted I read James Corden) to allow myself to read any other book until I’m done… So I read magazines, I watch TV, I deny myself the pleasure of ‘real’ writing as a punishment for being too ignorant to appreciate non-fiction. I will read it. I must. But next time, I will pick a page turner piece of popular fiction and enjoy it.)

Back to JC and the NT: he wrote of the theatre and his experiences there with passion. He wrote of its significance to him personally and to British drama. He accepted his role in the award winning ‘One Man, Two Guvnors because of its director and that it was a National Theatre production.

Maybe I’m meant to see something amazing there, and it’s that simple- although it has been fun this past week to imagine, a play I’ve written or am staring in opening there, or a career and/ or a romance there. A girl can dream, especially when given such an inspiring and promising place in which to dream in.

105: and so it’s Sunday night; and school, coursework marking, the exam cram, the AS performance, endless paperwork, the annual timetable battle await. Today, I had coffee and a walk with Mum at Mount Stewart in lieu of dinner at home. I told Mum I’d stuff to do for work and I do. I just knew I wouldn’t do any of it. I tweeted, I blogged and I watched TV: fighting of the Sunday night blues.

It’s been a great Easter: filled with people and places I love. May my summer be seven weeks that are just like this one.

 

Day 99 April 9, 2012

Filed under: film/ movies,Literature — carrieohara @ 11:40 pm

A good day: I made a passable lunch for T and spent time with my nephew: his giggling makes my heart sing.

Tonight I spent with a great friend, Anne Hathaway and Jim Sturgess. I’d loved One Day so much I’d read it again for book club: and felt my contribution to our discussion had infuriatingly betrayed the emotional connection I’d made with the novel.
I’d cast myself in the role of Emma and I too fell in love with the oh-so-sexily flawed Dexter Mayhew.
The critics had shredded the movie: Hathaway in particular, I was more annoyed with the shredding of the nuances of the novel itself: but oh, Dexter, I love you. Not since Robert Pattison entered stage left on to the Twilight screen, have I been so achingly enchanted by a cinematic character. Sturgess got Dexter, his portrayal of the role so closely resembled my understanding of it.

I’m mentally reviewing my chequered back catalogue of encounters in the fear I’ve let my Dexter slip away…

And on the drive home, I’d a sudden memory flash of an Easter Monday from forever ago, spent ruining my liver in Galway… Such a trip would kill me now but the halcyon if rather hazy memories made me smile.

 

Days 90, 91 & 92 April 1, 2012

Filed under: family,film/ movies,London — carrieohara @ 7:47 pm

Day 91

The last day of term is always something of an anti-climax. I spent nearly three hours and too much money at the hairdressers (no one has noticed): and came home too tired to see straight. I lay semi conscious on the sofa to watch a frustratingly good chick flick, I had so been hoping to dislike.

Day 91

Babysitting is one of my all time favourite activities and my nephew M is my all time favourite baby: so Saturday was full of cuddles and giggles and endless moments of cute…

Post dinner saw the real onset of ‘school trip to London’ panic. Why did I volunteer for such madness?!

I spent too late a night realising that even though Jude Law’s Alfie seems like a terrible kisser: he can really act and has one helluva smile. Following on my from my mid week Don Draper obsession: clearly I like my cinematic crushes to be very flawed; if I wasn’t consumed by school trip fear, I’d worry about that instead.

Day 92
After a bad start my Sunday shaped up to be quietly panicked: a misplaced Oyster card and lost hearing aid were found and the packing/ list ticking completed. Mum taking me out for coffee in the middle of the afternoon was a welcome hour of calm.
3am ( our flight is at stupid o’clock) will come all too quickly: wish me luck and pray for the safe return of this band of travellers. London here we come…

 

Days 56 and 57 February 27, 2012

Filed under: Drama/theatre,family,film/ movies,Food,football,Friendship,Teaching — carrieohara @ 8:38 pm

It was if  the fates had combined this weekend to remind me of all that being here (as opposed to ass kicking London or somewhere else in my fantastical pipe dreams) offered…

As a PS to Friday; an old friend I see way too little of, had a baby girl, its a lovely thing to be included in the list of people who are told such delightful news!

Day 56: Work, Friends and Chocolate

I got to be totally wowed by an A2 performance today: the girls and the uber talented Miss S were in school, on a Saturday dedicating more time to their forthcoming performance.

I’ve missed teaching this unit: you start with the shreds of an idea and end up (through stress, mess and endless work) with something that belongs to these students and this time. Miss S and I had decided that rather than muddy the waters with too many directorial voices I would leave seeing the piece until it was finished.

I couldn’t speak; everytime I opened my mouth I cried harder. The students don’t realise just how moving their performance is; and with a week of rehearsal left, it can only get better.

It’s great to have those moments when you realise the privileges of the job you do.

Saturday night, a friend came round, we caught up, we ate too much rubbish  (Espero’s 7 crusade has at the very least made me consider the gluttony in my life; obviously I haven’t done anything about righting my wrongs; but even considering  it is progress… ) and watched Bridesmaids, a film I’d avoided because the ‘female’ Hangover just didn’t appeal: I didn’t want to be prudishly tutting at the toilet humour, and yes it was puerile; and perhaps in a less buoyant mood, I would be writing a blog slating all it stood for: but it was so incredibly funny! Entertainment for entertainment’s sake: and unashamedly so. I actually downloaded Wilson Phillips’ Hold On before the final credits rolled. A fabulous night in…

Day 57: Domesticity, football and home

Sunday brought the week’s only lie in, pottering around the house and endless ironing in front of the football. I am utterly the much hated ‘fair weather/ big occasion’  sports fan; so Sunday brought Liverpool and Cardiff City to Wembley for a nail biting, penalty shoot out finish of a Carling Cup final. I am always shocked by how emotionally involved I become in it all, I was late for dinner with Mum because the match ran into extra time. I couldn’t finish the dinner she made, because the penalties had my stomach in knots.  I was dancing around the kitchen, ridiculously elated when the Reds finally won!  Crazy behaviour but…there’s a theatre to football, a collective emotion, that I find incredibly easy to engage with.

And, it was one of those days peppered with texts with claims for my company, nights out, dinners in: the people of my life were reminding  me of their place in it.

 

 

Day 42… Eat, Pray, Love February 11, 2012

Filed under: film/ movies,Literature,Me, Myself, I — carrieohara @ 11:10 pm

I made it until dinner time before I felt bored… I did laundry, I mopped floors, I changed my bed clothes, I eased the restlessness of the late afternoon by a walk in the sunset.

I subscribed to lovefilm quite some time ago: there are too many movies I’ve never seen and the DVD through the post thing was intended to help me while away nights much like this one.

I’d loved Eat, Pray, Love when I read the book, I’d waited too long on doing that too: I try to avoid disappointment and in doing so delay much pleasure ( I need to go to Rome, drink wine, eat gelato, find pleasure…)
I’d even gone as far to recommend the novel to Belle Fierce, whose superior intellect usually prohibits from such folly…

IEat, Pray, Love in its cinematic form hit my letter box months ago, I’ve actually dusted the DVD. I’ve avoided watching it-wasting many more movie moment opportunities- because my Mum (a zealous lovefilm convert) had been hugely disappointed by Ms Roberts as the globe trekking Liz…and again I was delaying pleasure by avoiding disappointment (this has been tonight’s epiphany).

I enjoyed the movie: it lacked the novel’s depth and ethereal power, I believed less in the changing and challenging power of Liz’s cinematic relationships than I felt in her literary ones. It was globally gorgeous but all too underplayed and rushed through.

And yet…it made me want to travel: it made me realise that self awareness is a powerful thing; and I don’t yet have the ability to forgive myself my many transgressions. It made me want to redefine the scope of my life…

 

 
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