Carrie O'Hara

The pouting and ponderings of a single 30 year old

Days 93-98 April 9, 2012

So it’s been a while…a whole week since I bemoaned my privileged existence to the faithful few who indulge me and me blog self.

This time last week I was in London with two of my best friends and 28 hangers on. The much blogged about, endlessly lamented school trip was… well something .

I know the things that make ‘good’ reading are when the best laid plans of Drama teachers go off the radar even slightly; and I know the party line is: the ‘kids’ really behaved; they enjoyed themselves (and I actively enjoyed their company) we got them home safe and sound: all the measures of a successful educational visit.

So I’m not quite sure how I do it justice.
Settle for a few highlights:

- an impromptu birthday cake (oh to be turning 17 again) in the Covent Garden sunshine.

- Billy Elliott is phenomenal:
political, risqué, emotional, funny: all I demand of a piece of theatre and more… I was on my feet for the ovation before I’d quite realised it was over.

- A backstage tour of the National Theatre: these people take their theatre seriously: perfectly pitched for our students, long enough to be informative and short enough to hold the flitting teenage attention span, and again I was reminded that I should really look beyond the bright lights and lure of the West End when I come to London in search of culture.

- I wouldn’t say I was disappointed in Wicked but it didn’t live up to the hype I’ve heard. Rachel Tucker made an engaging and talented Elphaba but Glinda was an annoyance…yet, maybe it’s impossible to give anything your full attention when you’re worried about a sick student; and getting the remaining 27 home on the tube, in the rain, minus one staff member. Another visit to Oz is needed before I give my informed verdict.

- the Wicked workshop was fabulous. An engaging ( and rather stunning actor) who could both do and teach; and an informative Q&A the included a very lovey Wicked dancer, in which our kids held their own and I managed not to gush too much.

And I could go on… yet, this and any list, denies those moments of magic when you see your pupils as more than a potential grade and name in a mark book: when you’re made privy to their inner world and you get to remember the sheer joy and potential that exists when you’re 17: and when you see the cultural value of travel and teamwork and friendship and fun.

It was a great trip: I was blessed by my travelling companions and a brilliant group of kids BUT I have swore to all who will listen that never will I attempt such madness again!

Day 96
Another day, another theatre trip! Who said teachers have great holidays?!
At least this time we were closer to home. Blood Brothers never, ever disappoints, it’s tragedy and comedy move me every time.
And when it was over the holidays could officially begin…

Days 97&98

My friends S&P hope to persuade me out of my Aetheism through thought provoking, liberal services at their church. The Good Friday Reflection </em was moving, engaging and prompted many queries as I held court in their house with their friend T, who as an Anglican minister was able to shed some light on various issues: if not answers to the questions that have none.

Brunch with my boys is always a delight and I got to travel to their rather far flung new build. Even my spatially unaware self was able to imagine their ‘work in progress’ into their castle on a cloud. My hovel apartment paled into insignificance on my return.

S&P are a blessing I cannot imagine my life without; my soul is richer and happier through knowing them.

Day 98
Easter Sunday is always spent at Auntie V’s eating more than is good for me. It’s always lovely to catch up with extended family: and the cousins at different exciting stages of their lives. A family wedding is planned for a fortnight’s time and it was good to share in that excitement, reminding me of the fun and chaos I’d enjoyed before T& N’s big day.

And bless Sky TV scheduling, I got to catch up with my boys in the NYPD and the men of MADison avenue; and my ultimate TV guilty pleasure Made in Chelsea: while planning and securing the various catch ups a week off promises.

 

69, 70, 71 and 72: London- a rekindled love affair… March 13, 2012

Filed under: Drama/theatre,Friendship,London,travel — carrieohara @ 9:27 pm

Let’s try this again.

Day 69

Turns out a busy work day, truly bad airport, the hassle of a late flight and (hotel faux pas#1) a bed without enough pillows, can all be thrown into utter insignificance by the craic and catch up of a friend so fabulous, I should pay her fees as my therapist.

Day 70

Hotel faux pas#2 a flooded bathroom floor: M was on the case (I’m a spineless arse who inwardly fumes, and then blogs about her woes in a self-deprecating tone), we were told to pack our theatre dresses and anti-terrorism toiletries into our suitcases and all would be resolved: a new room found by our return…

Our visit to the Imperial War Museum (improved hugely by having your own history teacher tour guide) was humbling. The first world war exhibit made me realise, not for the first time that I would be one of those soldiers shot in the trench for cowardice: I would never have found whatever it was you needed to throw yourself ‘over the top’.

The holocaust exhibit was as harrowing and terrifying as you expect and need such things to be. I’ve been haunted by the quote stark red against a black wall,

All that is required for evil to prevail is for good men (and women) to do nothing

It’s impossible to hear that and not think of Syria.

And so to Jersey Boys the musical that tells the story of Frankie Vialli and the Four Seasons. I’d stumbled across it by chance on another West End weekend away: and the soundtrack has been part of my theme song ever since. It didn’t disappoint, even when there was a technical hitch only five minutes from curtain. You could feel the audience will the lights back on: we were hooked, we needed our ending…
And it worked, I danced down the street: amazing what a little musical theatre and afternoon wine can do for a girl.

Hotel faux pas #3&4 our stuff hadn’t been moved, and the room we were moved to had slept in beds and towels on the bathroom floor. I’m really not a hotel Princess but I draw the line at using other people’s wet towels.

We finally got a room we could get ready in: and headed without irony, to the theatre at the Savoy hotel for Legally Blonde. I was never a huge fan of the film and I had severe issues hearing a lot of the dialogue but M loved it; and we both loved Emmett (even if it was the delectably talented Mr Meade we’d booked our tickets hoping to see). I’ve been practicing my ‘Bend and snap’ ever since.

We dined in a buzzing Covent Garden restaurant with great prosecco; and headed back in the hope that the Covent Garden Travelodge had morphed into somewhere you could actually stay.

Day 71

4.30am fire alarm goes off but no sign of any actual danger… Hotel faux pas #Come On People get it together! And instead of refunding us one night’s stay they nearly charged my debit card an extra night!
Enter at your peril! You’ve been warned!!

Sunday was walks in the spring sunshine, cupcakes and coffee in the cutest shop imaginable and endless giggling laughing at the slogan t-shorts in David& Goliath in Covent Garden; great Mexican food and shopping at Gatwick; and meeting an old friend on the plane.

So London, you and me? It’s back on…
When I bring, good company, a fully charged google map friendly phone and a sense of humour: I’m yours for the taking!

Day 72

Monday was well Monday, school is busy to the point of hellishness and the work to be done is endless.
My day was brightened considerably when I got a text from my London travel buddy, “…just think, things could be worse, you could work in the Travelodge!”

Comedy gold!

 

Days 67 and 68 March 8, 2012

Filed under: Drama/theatre,Education,Friendship,London,travel — carrieohara @ 10:26 pm

Day 67

There are days my job drives me crazy, there are too many days when it stresses me out and rare, rare moments when I remember what a privilege it is…
Yesterday it was just: fun! I had a poorly attended rehearsal and decided that instead of throwing the toys out of the pram and I would embrace the joy with those who cared enough to show up.
I laughed till I cried, at utter silliness, I saw two of the pupils in the corridor today and we all laughed again…
Sometimes my crazy making, heartbreaking job ain’t all that bad…

Day 68

Hubris is a bitch: of course yesterday’s fun has to be paid for today with a rehearsal I screamed in…
But a weekend away awaits: Country Chick Vs The City: Carrie’s London Comeback.

As big a fan as I am of anticipation, I’ve dreaded this weekend as I’ve so much to do for work and should stay home and do it; I’ve so much to do for the school trip and being in the city it’s all a hapenin’ in may have me reaching for a paper bag as I hyperventilate:and the very last thing my perilous bank balance needs is a to be in a place where they charge you to breathe. And let me face it, my melodrama allowed London to so royally kick my ass during our last encounter that I’m not quite sure how I gear up for Round 2.

But I decided tonight was about attitude change: this trip I bring reinforcements: a great friend/ laughter therapist who I adore and I haven’t seen in too, too long.
Tonight I ignored the marking and admin and had a comfort dinner, I danced around with my iPod as I ironed clothes and packed my suitcase: and had a pre-Glee bubble bath .

This weekend is about taking back the fun; the hell of spring term will be there on Monday morning but the cancer to spend a weekend in a city that excites me, with a friend I love, doing things that make me smile just doesn’t come around often enough.

 

Days 46, 47, 48 and 49: a country girl and the city February 19, 2012

Filed under: Blogging,Drama/theatre,family,London,travel — carrieohara @ 4:31 pm

The problem with the 365 is that occasionally my life is too busy to find the time to write about it; and this makes it too easy to feel negative about those endless days when the time is too plentiful.

I started to write my ideas for this blog catch up as I wasted a day in Heathrow, and I realised that my writing fears, first verbalised to Belle Fierce some time ago, had come to fruition. I have lost my mojo. Who wants to read a minute by minute account of someone else’s weekend away?

Do I want to write the pithy, witty, tongue in cheek account of my half term in London? Or do I want to share the self indulgent, no doubt, flawed psychoanalysis such trips seem to force me into?

I guess I try to capture my moments and my thoughts to help my understanding of them; some how my day has worth, if I value it enough to capture its essence in print: but I question it’s value to any reader that’s not me. And yet a small band of followers do read…maybe with perseverance and time; confidence and inspiration.

Until then, I will make do with some half hearted account of the highlights and low lights of the last few days.

#46
Despite the high production values and the strengths of the direction of the performance itself: a very stressful theatre trip set the wrong tone for what was always going to be a fraught few days away.

#47
I was the asshole in central London during Thursday morning’s rush hour with the oversized luggage.Walking the itinerary for the school trip in April is a necessary evil: complicated further by my poor, poor sense of direction, the money I was spending that I can’t actually spare, and the feeling that I was yet again sacrificing myself at the altar of work and no one gives a damn.

Made it till the lunch on Thursday: day one of the trip was in place, I hadn’t paid too much for my West End matinee ticket and I was already for the reclaiming of my afternoon.
I couldn’t find the theatre. I lunched on what was essentially a traffic island with a statue: it was that or faint.

The Novello was footsteps away from where I’d first started looking and Crazy for You deserves its many accolades. A musical with a vintage charm and talent to spare.
My phone died before the standing O and I now needed to be in a very different part of London, having collected my case at Charing Cross, checked in to the hotel and reached Angel for dinner with my bro all within the hour.

Instead I had a meltdown. Got the case but couldn’t find the hotel; I circled the streets of Covent Garden reminding myself how to breath. Found it eventually (hostel is more apt phrase) to be told I was in the wrong building and was first given a room that had neither lights nor bed linen. Back to reception: apologies were made, keys were given, I rang my bro in tears; he ignored my commotion and changed the reservation.

I realised that my pipe dream, of taking on London on a permanent basis, Ms Independence, in a city she loves would be a disaster. Mum and T are right: the stress, the loneliness, the sheer force of that place would kill me within the first fortnight. I would fail where T and B had so excelled: I felt weak and provincial and trapped by my reality.

Dinner, when we got there, was the perfect anti-dote to my crazy afternoon. London most definitely agrees with B and his part of the city was calm with an enigmatic sense of style.
We enjoyed food I’d never tried before, good wine, great and easy conversation. I glimpsed his new place and London began to make sense to me again.

#48
Less tired and with a greater sense of calm and poise I spent Friday morning ‘walking’ days two and three of the school trip itinerary. I was pleased to have face the little hell that is Oxford Street and to have found, with the help of a charged phone, the much sought Abercrombie&Fitch. I lunched in a park and headed back to the hotel to consider my options.
I spent the next two hours making notes about the trip and chilling in the rather vacant hotel room. My feet were aching and I just didn’t have the energy to use my afternoon in a more fruitful way.

I met B at Bank, after a bedlam tube journey. I’d never been in ‘The City’ part of London before. Never had I seen so many purposeful looking twenty and thirty somethings in such obviously expensive suits. I was shocked by the electronic display boards in the streets, to allow the prices of shares to be forever any instantaneously accessible.

Our getting lost in the myriad of streets, phased the ‘now in London’ lad not even a little. B followed his map, stayed calm and I questioned again how we could both belong to the same gene pool.

Dinner at Gordon Ramsay’s BreadStreet Kitchenwas divine: low key but elegant, good food without the need of pretension.
While I awaited the arrival of an old friend, B kept me company in the type of bar he typically avoids. He was my knight in stylish armour this weekend; a familiar port in the storm of an unknown city and my means of decoding the city’s confusion.

EC and I go back a long way: all the way to Washington DC and our intern summer. And without sounding sentimental, we’re kindred spirits. I tell this accomplished girl, who I see so very infrequently, the things I never tell those that populate my every day.

Strangers in the city, we couldn’t find the type of bar we so seeked and instead drank bad wine in the cheap hotel I couldn’t quite believe I’d thought would in any way meet E’s standards.

But it was so very good to see her: both soothing and unsettling to share hidden truths.

#49
There was no hot water for a shower I didn’t make breakfast. E looking a million dollars, my feeling around 99p and looking worse, had time for a rushed coffee before she headed of to meet her friend J and the luxury of a spa, shopping and dinner in Chelsea.

The hangover and the exhaustion made melancholy, I headed to Heathrow rather than drag a suitcase through a busy London Saturday.
I was too, too early for my flight and felt I’d wasted yet another Opportunity in a city demanding I take it on, even though it continued to whip my ass.

The flight was delayed and it was to a sleeting Belfast that I returned. My beloved coastal town seemed to mock me with its provinciality.
London: frustrating and fabulous, tempting and terrifying both lonely and love filled, has left me feeling discontent with life as it is and intimidated by the life if offers: I occupy an uncomfortable restless, purgatory in the frustration that lies between.

 

The City Chick Wannabe November 24, 2009

Filed under: social rules,the single life,travel — carrieohara @ 11:50 pm

I am a girl both blessed and cursed with a vivid imagination. I can hear the strains of Schubert’s Ave Maria and despite my well-established and long lamented single status: have in my mind’s eye a vision of myself in white, making my happy and blessed way along the aisle of some religious establishment. I can look at my rather shabby and untidy apartment and imagine a home of stately splendor; a Nigella like me and the smell of mulled-wine and cinnamon  welcoming guests at Christmas through a be-wreathed front door. I can catch a TV image of one of the world’s major cities and imagine the Carrie Bradshaw/ Sex and the City lifestyle that awaits me there.

I love London. I love New York. I love Paris. I even have a rather special place in my heart for Dublin. Once upon a student years I Northern Ireland’s own metropolis of Belfast was ‘home’(admittedly only five out of every seven days and probably only eight out of every twelve months of the three years I studied there). And yet when I got a job and bought my first home (as an independent 21st century woman); the key components of ‘making your way in this world’ I ended up in pretty but rather rural North Down. The seaside town of Donaghadee has much, well the Lighthouse, Pier 36 and Grace Neills to reccomend it but city life it ain’t…

I found myself on a very short solo trip to London for a ‘course’ recently: as close as this lowly Drama (/English) teacher will ever get to a ‘business trip’. As my much braver sister had lived in London for five years and I was a frequent and delighted visitor; as a veteran of perhaps ten visits to the city I was determined to be ‘girl about town’. I wasn’t. I wasn’t even close.

I managed to navigate Heathrow and the tube but when I climbed out of the underground at Charing Cross: faced with real life pulsating London I panicked. Lost my bearings completely and began an unecessary trek around a frightening and on at that time on a Sunday night rather foreboding Trafalgar Square rather than simply walking down the Strand to the pre-booked hotel. I was suddenly fearful, lonely and horribly rural.

Once ensconced quite safely (with the door double locked) in my room I perused the room service menu; tempted to turn on ‘Good Will Hunting’ order a sandwich and put the kettle on. Where was the brave, stylish, designer shoe wearing pavement pounding woman of my imaginings? She would have fixed her face, and walked to a stylish restaurant ordered a cocktail and whatever she fancied on the menu while chatting up the gorgeous waiter…

The real me: fixed my face and headed down to the hotel restaurant (I feel you should applaud my courage: this is a step ahead of the room service sandwich). I asked if they were still open and the admittedly gorgeous waiter grabbed a menu and said ‘Only for you.’ as he led me to a table. I ordered champagne and two courses: I sat and read the ‘Style’ section of the The Sunday Times and I was secretly rather pleased that I wasn’t in the room drinking tea and chatting to my Mummy on the phone.

I have aspirations beyond my capabilities. When I couldn’t sleep (as London was clearly still wide-awake beyond my street facing window) I started to analyse the differences between the life the imagined I would live at 30 and the one I am actually experiencing. Whatever happened to the idea of the American teaching exchange: the year I would by some miracle of chance find myself doing a much better job in a progressive NYC high school than I ever did in Bangor (meeting of course a Samantha Jones smorgasbord of delightful male dinner dates along the way)? Where were the ‘that was the summer I inter-railed around Europe’ souvenir photographs? Where was the momento from the school I loved but left to pursue academic glory in a city of choice?

My sister moved to London and had a blast for five years, came home met her dream guy and we are planning her wedding.

My little brother having moved from Dublin to Melbourne via a ‘travel the world’ ticket is now deciding what the next part of his adventure may be.

What the hell happened me?In a hotel bedroom, a city I loved I worried that I had fallen into a professional and personal rut. But the reality is that I have a mortgage and too many financial obligations, a job I love and have further obligations too, a family and friend network so buoyant in their support that I know, KNOW that without it I crumble. In my more lucid, less deprived moment I realise that these are huge things to walk away from just to ‘feel like I can make it alone in the big city’.

I have given up on the idea of the husband and babies: they may still come a calling and I will of course fall at their feet and worship at the altar of motherhood but in their absence I need to ‘do something more’ with my life: I have to offer some sort of compensation for not fitting into the cookie-cutter eventualities I thought (and hoped) my life would follow.

…and yet I somehow feel I still have to somehow compensate for the fact that I life has dealt me a less than typical hand; but the problem is I don’t really know where to begin.

Yet again, I am a 21st century woman and to that end I am going to start small (a big dream needs a big wallet and that I do not have) faced with a month of the summer to fill (post my sister’s wedding in July) I am going to take a week: I am going to go to London all my own some, drink champagne in a new restaurant each night, go to West End shows, enjoy museums and art galleries, take that city on.

If I hate it (and I do fear that I subscribe to ‘I’m nobody till somebody loves me’/ ‘What use is the world if you’ve no-one to share it with?’ school of thought) then I will strike city living of my ‘Things to do with your life’ possibility and reach for the next idea. If I love it then….who wants to move to London with me??

(First published on Carpe Diem Carrie O’Hara)

 

A Carrie Catch-up: Birthday Blessings… November 24, 2009

Filed under: family,Society,the single life,travel — carrieohara @ 11:48 pm

 I’m not sure what happened…one day we all seemed to spend way too much of our time amazed at each other’s ability to write and share their view of the world…leading to the forging of new friendships and the reviving of ones not quite forgotten. Blogging became our individual yet collective way of both embracing and making sense of our world…I miss it. And regret the moments manic and magic that I haven’t captured on paper and are gone forever.

So where to begin….

I last blogged in April when my world was in that state of torture that was looming coursework and exam deadlines and the shadow of the then approaching ‘milestone’ birthday was looming so large upon my horizon that reaching towards light on the other side seemed impossible. 

But as time and tide wait for no woman 30 did arrive… these were the highlights

  • Getting a Tiffany’s bracelet from my sister and bro-in-law bought in NYC on the same day they got engaged. Having lost my ‘first’ one during a drunken escapade this was much more than I deserved… N came the whole way from Belfast to D’dee in rush hour for a flying 20 minute visit to be here when I opened that duck-egg blue box. T is a lucky girl to be marrying him; and I’m so blessed by them both.
  • Dinner in Grace Neils with T and many great old friends in attendance and seeing one of them blissfully tipsy for the first time since the birth of her beautiful daughter (also coming home with bags full of goregeous presents)
  • The much talked about and taunted ‘English department’ day out: an Ards peninsula pub crawl that included great friends, lovely wine, good food and cheerleading on the Portaferry ferry in a pink wig with pompoms! I was humbled by the money, time and preparation the ‘girls’ had gone too.  A day out turned into an overnight stay and my lazy Sunday was capped of with yet another dinner out to relive the glory of the previous day…
  • My birthday weekend itself was spent in London with more good friends and those I feel most guilty about; I never see these one time housemates and soulmates from studentville. We were greeted with champagne, spent time in Covent Garden, got to finally discover the glory that is Poets’ Corner in Westminster Abbey. I made the bold choice of spending the afternoon alone watching Les Miserables. Words fail me…. I was worried that the performance would fail to live up to the huge expectations I had of it. By the interval I no longer had make-up on my face and was literally shaking as I drank my red wine at the bar. The theatrical spectacular was all I needed it to be and more. Our London adventure continued with a rickshaw ride to see a very hilarious Chicago and then drinks and dancing in a very trashy nightclub. All I wanted and more…
  • Take That at Croke Park had long been pencilled in, highlighted in pink, underlined and asterixed in red in my diary. One of my fellow Take That obsessives had (what turned out to be a great if at the minute very little excuse) not to come; but undaunted Mel and I got the all-singing, all drinking train to Dublin and fell back in love with the boys from Manchester. Circus really was the greatest show on earth: they never, never disappoint and yet raise the bar for entertainment with each new tour. A rather long and misdirected walk back to the hotel was brightened by an encounter with a very comical encounter with a Garda officer who knew we were both so enchanted by his sexy accent, the uniform and high on emotion that the complicated directions he gave us would never be followed.

And despite the long list this doesn’t begin to cover what my dreaded 30th birthday became. I had dreaded it because I’d looked only for the things my life was missing: the truly successful career(as opposed to the one I feel I do badly), the husband, the house (rather than the apartment increasingly in need of work), the baby, the completed world trip and had instead missed the blessings of the life I have at the minute: the overwhelming generosity of family and friends, the social opportunites and fun that lies in favourite cities and here on my doorstep…

One of my many birthday cards quoted Brigit Bardot as saying, ‘ When you’re thirty your’e old enough to know better, but still young enough to go ahead and do it.’  She’s right.

 

My New York love affair… November 16, 2007

Filed under: family,New York,travel — carrieohara @ 12:49 am

There have been no blogs of significance in a while, I wanted to wait for the stardust to settle. I wanted to wait for the blues to past which took much longer than anticipated. I also wasn’t completely convinced that ‘My trip to New York’ would work as a blog: I mean how interested are you really in someone else’s holiday photographs;and this particular city is nothing if not experiential (but then I realised who is interested in my drivel anyway- I might as well indulge myself).

My love affair with the astonishing city that is New York quite possibly happened years before I ever quite made it to island of Manhattan. It’s a city you can’t escape: backdrop and set to so many sitcoms, films, commercials and image rich novels: a city that should have drowned some decades ago in the sheer weight of the expectation of first time visitors; but NYC is that extremely rare thing: it entirely lives up to its own hype.

Date#1

My feet finally did touch the shores of the Hudson in 1998: a one day trip, flanked on either side by the overnight bus back to Boston; my first Broadway show and first scary encounter with Port Authority bus station. Just there long enough to whet my appetite for a much bigger bite of the Big Apple.

Date #2

 A weekend in the summer of magic that was 2000: that was my DC summer: days spent as a Congressional Intern; nights spent at Embassy parties, or with pitchers of beer in Irish bars. My friend Emer and I spent a crazy weekend in Manhattan. We arrived late, again at that the place of sheer fear: Port Authority; armed only with our wits, our rucksacks and a list of hostels; only the weak hearted book accommodation before arrival. (I was 21- and stoopid). This weekend, in the theme that we’d embraced warmly all summer was fuelled by too much beer. Emer and I met an NYC, ER doctor  (looking back and given the pulsing popularity of George Clooney/ Dr Doug Ross  at the time- this may have been a line; in fact he actually told us his name was Doug) who decided to show us ‘real New York’. Real New York turned out to be Arthur’s Tavern: a bar deep in Greenwich Village; with its Christmas decorations up in July (they were ‘Trying to maintain the festive buzz) and a waitress who was either Chrissy Hynes or her identical twin.

The late night and many beer pitchers left us both feeling quite green on the Staten Island ferry and left Emer standing at the World Trade Centre subway station while I was on the leaving train….my lost in Manhattan story includes tears, the help of many strangers and sheer panic…still felt like I was only nibbling at the apple’s edges.

Date #3

The ‘O’Hara’ family trip to NYC: began as a running family joke and became the means that allowed Mum, Big Sis and myself to ‘wish little bro and his lovely lady luck as we waved them goodbye’ on their trip around the world. The idea of a family holiday was ambitious: as children of a Vegetable/Cereal/ Sheep farmer we knew that finance and agricultural responsibilities made holidays something other people did. Our one family trip away had been to wilds of Enniskillen in an overheating car; while we three were still young enough to truly appreciate the wealth of the ice-cream menu and the arrival of our tasty delights with sparklers.

So four days in NYC with Mummy O’Hara, Big Sis and Carrie all in the same room was ambitious from the outset. And we were trying to balance the needs and desires not only of these three very different women but also of Little Bro and his gorgeous girlfriend as well. (This girl has the heart of a lion: not only does she date/live with my wonderful but infuriating little bro but she braved the O’Haras en masse for almost a week!)We had a blast- far surpassing even the most ambitious of possible scenarios. We spent a day enchanted by the MOMA;  an afternoon discovering Strawberry Fields and the other hidden treasures of Central Park and we only thought we had known retail therapy until the bright lights of Bloomingdales: soothed our souls and melted our credit cards.

I know that many decades from now when we are each who knows where; I will remember the sound of our collective laughter and awe at the top of the Empire State, the moment of true family intimacy as we huddled round our baked delicacies and amazing cappucino in Cafe Angelique in Greenwich Village and Little Bro’s goodbye; after a performance of ‘The Lion King’ and a final drink in a Times Square Irish bar.  (I didn’t even mention our ‘Sex and the City’ tour which deserves a blog, dissertation and epic novel all of its own…)

Which brings me finally to my most recent date with NYC: Date #4

This trip began in what has now become something of a urban legend… It was a friend of mine’s first day back at school, the same fate was to befall me in the very immediate future, so we met for coffee to lament the passing of the summer and the beginning of the new school term. My hallowe’en itinerary was supposed to include the Sistine Chapel, St Peter’s  and too much great red wine: but ‘Mum and Carrie do Rome’ has been postponed; Mum couldn’t get the time of work. My friend Hazel asked what my half-term plans were and asked if I’d go back to NYC (this was to be her virgin visit to my now old flame); I nearly knocked the carrot cake out of her hand in the dash to my laptop and the booking of flights.

I was now an old-Pro. We stayed at the same downtown hotel (from the previous year lauded family vacation)off 5th  Avenue; gaining the same immediate views of the Empire State and the Flat Iron building; we breakfasted at the same Gourmet Deli every morning and I fell in love all over again.

The Circle Line guide (encountered during Trip#3) had said that one of the questions he gets asked most was this one: How long does it take to see all of New York? His witty response: a whole year and one million dollars. We had four days and no where near that much money. Hazel was determined that I see more of the city rather than simply re-discovering places of past dalliances. Even now I’m amazed that we managed to discover so much: a trip to Tiffany’s, Grand Central Station, The Color Purple on Broadway (which deserves and will get a reverential blog all of its own), a trip around Brooklyn, the Rockefeller Centre (go early in the morning, it measures up to the Empire State in that you then get to see it too in your panoramic view of the world’s most famous skyline), lunches in scarves and designer sunglasses (purchased last year on 5th Avenue baby!) bathed in the sunlight of the park and then the Hudson, a rickshaw ride from the Park to the Plaza, an encounter with the film set for Sex and the City… I could go on and on and then on some more…

‘The Greenwich Village hallowe’en parade’: features on quite a few ‘Things to do before you die’ lists. Hazel has listed this as a “must-see” for our trip. Our day had started, as they all did upon the Gray Line Red Bus; we didn’t brave the subway and used taxis Carrie Bradshaw style when high heels made it necessary. These tours are phenomenal: for $50 we had three days of NYC transport and more entertainment than I’ve had in a year. This particular morning our tour guide was a real NYC boy; think of getting on a bus with someone who has Joey Tribbiani’s voice, Chandler Bing’s wit and Cassanova’s ability to flirt with any woman in a ten-block radius. The congested journey through Greenwich Village and towards South Street Seaport was one we didn’t want to end: he combined his charm with history cultural and political, a poignant confession that his high school had acted as a triage centre on 9/11 and that his father had worked in the south tower; along with an amusing anecdote about his roomate’s girlfriend and her frivolous waste of his quality olive oil and his desire to have one of his many screen plays ‘picked-up’ by HBO.

This was also the day of our beside the river lunch and tour of Brooklyn. We returned to Manhattan and I was determined to find the Magnolia Bakery on Bleeker Street: a key stop in the SATC tour which boasts the best cupcakes in all the world. And find it we did… just in time to encounter the children of Greenwich Village begin their ‘Trick or Treat’ tour of the designer stores who give out candy.

In preparation for the night ahead, Hazel and I decided that an afternoon cocktail was in order. We were served our deliciously lethal Cava Juleps by the Dalai Lama. One of New York’s Finest (an NYC cop) stopped to enquire if we were Irish, the afternoon drinking had alerted him to our heritage… The parade itself was something of a let-down, as novices we hadn’t realised that a parade that starts at 700pm (and here was the first glitch in the American efficiency we’d come to depend on: as by 745pm the first weird creature with a political purpose had yet to make its appearance) meant you needed to be, in your ‘only place you can actually see what’s happening- right there at the barrier position by 5pm.

Our wait and lack of view left us impatient: but on our walk back to 5th Avenue we encountered a dog dressed as a hot-dog: with ‘bread rolls’ attached to his side and ‘mustard’ dashed along his back, was asked by one Wonderwoman if we’d seen her invisble jet and missed a key photo opportunity of another Wonder Woman hailing a taxi. They DO Hallowe’en in New York: there is no, put on a bin liner and pretend its a costume: this is a cultural event; an excuse to go a little crazy and indulge your inner child or inner demon for all of your fellow New Yorkers to see.

Our night ended by my literal stumbling upon the fabulous restaurant we’d all eaten dinner at the Hallowe’en before. Houston’s on Park Avenue. The barman looked like a younger and less cynical Humprey Bogart; he had that New York knack of managing to refill your wine glass, melt your heart with his smile while taking someone else’s drink order. Hazel had to stop me from writing my phone number on the bar in red-lipstick…while we ate dinner and drank yet another bottle of gorgeous wine; Darth Maul and Queen Arimathea (Vox:if I spelt these names wrongly, it is because while I was still in recovery from the bar tender, we encountered a waiter who’s ancestor was probably the Greek God Adonis: so Star Wars vocabulary was the last thing on my mind).

Having been home a couple of weeks my time is consumed with plans of how to return: here is a list of my possible scenarios:

1. Finally let the world know, I was born to be on Broadway; they are calling me to be the leading light in a show of my choosing.

2. Find my own Mr Big(maybe the barman who will have made his fortune before I get there) who will let me share his Upper West side Penthouse apartment- with view of the park (I’m not too proud to be a New York lady who lunches.)

3. Rent a Brooklyn brownstone, teach English in City High School and let Manhattan be my weekend playground ( I would of course be taking Broadway acting classes and my talent would be on the cusp of discovery).

4. Go back to 1985, get Ms Sherwood’s job teaching English in the School of Performing Arts and be in ‘The Kids from Fame.’/ or I could marry Theo Huxtable from The Cosby Show.

5. Be a struggling writer/ would be actress/ take the Christmas job I was offered in Macy’s: Grayline tour guide entertaining the tourists with her own guide of the city she loves.

Not even one of these scenarios is plagued by realism: its New York, somehow they don’t have to be.

I love this city; there’s a big world out there 99% I have never seen and yet I’d go back to Manhattan in a New York minute: its a city of infinite possibility, a city that celebrates being alive; a city that has the arrogance to believe its best place on earth and then take you out on the town to prove it.

Good night New York I love ya- and I’ll see you very soon.

 

 
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